It is so Difficult to Change.

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It is so difficult to change. But why? If we set goals, we might even reach them; however, afterward, we often slip back into our old habits. Hadn’t we achieved what we had worked so hard for? And so there should be a reward of relaxation, splurge, and enjoyment, isn’t it? It can’t be for life.

James Clear says it brilliantly: the system has to change so we can become the ones we wish to be.

Who do we wish to be in five or ten years?

I wish to be a conscious, graceful, sporty, joyful, wise, and inspiring woman when I am 75. My role model would be Sting right now. He looks stunning, fit, is deep, and happier than ever.

Let’s ignore the gender and fantasize about what he does daily: he eats healthy, works out, has a great partner, and enjoys friends. He challenges his flexibility on the road and, by that, stays agile. He is mentally active and creative; I even saw him riding a horse and heard that he meditates…. now I am clear on which “muscles” to focus on (besides riding the horse, probably).

Imagine any of your role models. Stay with them for a while, imagine their lifestyle, their daily routines, and you will know what to do. Your subconscious already knows what to do.

I can suddenly say no to the “chocolate temptations”; decision-making becomes easy. I know what I always knew, but now I have a clear guide. I love that.

The person I want to be, I indeed begin to create her today with body, speech, and mind. If I like to be intellectual, I should read and choose to be around intelligent people; if I like to talk with my neighbors in a foreign country, I must learn the language. If I want to become a real writer, I have to start writing. If I wish to walk more, I should consider buying a dog. And hélas, the system will change without hesitation.

Champagne for the Mind #8 — October 31, 2022